Can the lack of communication trigger old wounds?

Man alive! I am full with emotion today. I've been actively watching communication in my life recently. How it has shown up in the most beautiful way in relationships, and therefore how important it has become to me. More than I realised before.

I thought I was generally a good communicator. Being mindful to let people know what was up, and what was down. Recently though, while I have been shown at a higher level just how much communication we really need for a healthy relationship, it allowed me to become more mindful in my own life and reflect on how much I was going to communicate, and how much I needed that from others.

This sparked my awareness that I do require it to feel safe. Boom, what a statement. When you consider that safety is our very basic need, hmm interesting. I then wanted to unpack this need to 'know' to 'understand' and why it created safety in me.

It comes from fear. Fear from expressing my needs, and therefore communicating my needs. Will I be heard? Will I be ignored? Will I be told I'm too emotional? Am I too much?

On the flip side, what if I am not communicated with? What is hidden creates stories in our heads. It brings up old insecurities that we are not enough.

So I am left with, "Am I too much?" and "I am not enough". WELL! what a predicament I am in, lol! Luckily I am not attached to these identities and I can quite quickly move through this awareness and detach from the emotion of the past, this is not who I am now.

Buuuuuuuuuut! The point to this 'feel free and write' blog, is that no matter what you do sometimes you cannot please everyone, so what is the solution? Please yourself, and have one foot in the door of awareness for others.

With regards to communication and bringing up old patterns, yes, it has for me. It has brought up that I still have underlying feelings around safety, and this recent run in has allowed me to address this.

This is the process of self development and the work that can be done to get to a place of self compassion and to know that we are what we feel, and what we think. I want to feel safe. So I need to continue to foster that for my Self.

Love Ems xxx